What has the mentality to do with some crabs in the bucket? Does crab in the bucket theory sound familiar?
Well, if you aren’t familiar with this phrase, it depicts the actions of crabs that are put in a bucket. Every crab in a bucket will pull the other down to get out of the crab bucket himself.
So no one succeeds in getting out! Sounds silly and funny, right?
It may sound funny, but it’s how some people around you or maybe you work. Like the bucket, where each crab pulls the other down, and the result is no one getting out, people tend to pull each other down when they can’t get what they want. They have the crab mentality that if I don’t win, I’m not letting anyone win either. This is what contributes to the downfall of human relations as well as companies. In the race to get to the finish line faster, one does not think twice when putting barriers in the way of his colleagues.
This mentality ensures that no matter how much one works, none can make it. If you start pushing each other forward rather than pulling each other down, you’ll get everything done as one firm team. Just as if the crabs just waited for their turn to get out, they’d all succeed in escaping the crab bucket.
So why are you reading about the crab in the barrel mentality anyways? Let’s explore this mentality and why it is necessary to surround yourself with positive influence to achieve success.
Example of Crabs in the Bucket Mentalities in Real Life
Some more examples of these include:
1. Physical Health
When you desire to reduce weight but crabs convince you that you look “fine” and that indulging in unhealthy food is okay. Peer pressure to consume some of the birthday cake at work or resistance to gym exercise is common.
2. Financial Soundness
When you may be attempting to cut costs, crabs could ask you for pricey dinners and make you feel bad if you decline the invitation. Additionally, they could make you feel guilty for packing your lunch, given that the crew prefers to eat out every day.
3. Professional Achievements
A good illustration of this is when you receive a promotion you deserve, but crabs discredit you by insinuating that you weren’t treated fairly. This may be especially true if you suddenly find yourself in a higher position than the other crabs, as they may try to undermine you by feeding off one another.
4. Temporal Success
This could be the case when you’re trying to quit your nine-to-five job, but the crabs at work are getting in the way by either dismissing your desire for independence or making it more difficult for you to transfer to a new career.
5. Social Welfare
This illustrates when crabs circulate unfavorable rumors about you or other individuals. Crabs prefer to undermine others than offer solutions.
Is there an escape from the crab bucket?
There is an escape from the crab bucket, but you must first determine if you’re in one.
Identify The Crabs Around You:
If you’re giving your hundred percent, working late night shifts, putting those extra hours in work to excel but still don’t get what you deserve, there are probably some crabs around you. They might think you’re getting favoritism benefits and some unfair advantages. So remember to assess your surroundings. Your so-called friends might be the crabs preventing you from achieving success.
Some statements you might be familiar with could be:
“Why do you exercise so much?” If they see you trying to be healthy while they are couch potatoes themselves.
“Why are you fussing over food?” If they see you eating healthy stuff while they go out to get pizzas daily.
“Wow, you have the nerve!” If you go on any adventure or do something for your self-care once in a while, all they do is judge other people and do nothing for themselves.
If you hear many such statements daily, you should change your surroundings and surround yourself with positive energy that motivates you to carry on your work.
When you realize that crabs surround you, don’t panic. Please don’t give them too much head. The fact that you’re striving for change and making an effort is what makes people with the crab mentality difficult to look in the mirror. Since they aren’t working and making efforts, they don’t want to see their fellows making any progress either.
How to Get Out of the Crab Bucket:
It’s hard to get out of the crab bucket. It is not that you cannot, but it is hard to accept that your friends are the real crabs holding you down. To get out of the bucket, you must first accept that your friends are not positive about achieving your goals. You need to weigh whether you value the goals that guarantee you utmost satisfaction or if your friends are more important to you.
The acceptance that changing your friend’s circle or workplace is the key to your achievements is emotionally draining. But the sooner you do it, the better it is for you. Accept the challenges that life throws in your way and realize that you will get out of that barrel of crabs no matter what the other crabs are doing around you.
Even research shows that crab mentality affects stress levels and working conditions in various fields like healthcare.
If you want to get out of the bucket and ready to start achieving your goals, here’s how you can do it:
Create Your Goals List
You must plan your route before climbing out of the bucket. Sometimes the desire to escape the loop is so strong that it might serve as an excellent starting motivator, but moving away from something isn’t enough; you also need to go toward something else.
Make a list of what you want to achieve first. This will save you time as well. Once you have the list in mind, you can start working toward your priorities.
Get a New Bucket
Finding a new bucket is sometimes the best course of action. When you realize your current one is a little too full, getting a new one is the best way out. A less crowded bucket with fewer crabs is better since you can work without too many thoughts about getting pulled down. For example, if you want to work out more, just pick a gym near you or move nearer to a gym. Or, if you want to improve your skills, observe those who are doing better than you rather than becoming a crab yourself and pulling them down.
Think of it as a quick hack that forces you into work mode and gives you motivation and renewed energy to achieve your goals. This isn’t foolproof since people have the crab mentality wherever they go. But the least you can do is to break free from the crab bucket and find one with a less crowded one.
There are crabs everywhere, the kind of crabs that derive satisfaction from bullying others. The only way to tackle these annoying and downright horrendous kinds of crabs is to turn a deaf ear to them. Focus on your tasks. Concentrate on achieving your goals and leave all the distractions behind. Take steps to increase your focus and stay resilient.
It is easy to fall prey to crabs and take their negative remarks to the heat. But realize that these individuals are only a few of the crabs in the bucket. Each bucket has its own set of bullies, and even your friend circle would contain a few of them. In all these cases, stay motivated. Motivation is the key to success. If you’re intrinsically motivated, then there’s nothing holding you back.
Look In The Mirror
Don’t just use a mirror to view your appearance and how you look. But use a mirror to look into yourself. Use some elf-realization techniques and focus on your personal development. You’re ahead of the crabs and have a long way to go. Don’t get demotivated by other people adopting the crab mentality theory. Be a survivor. Get out of the loop. Focus on self-improvement. Make yourself self-sustainable. Do all this by taking time to judge yourself by looking at the mirror. Judge yourself honestly but don’t take any negative judgment by the crabs. You’re going to get through this!
Get Things Done One Step At a Time
Your goals might be big and bold; trust us, there is nothing bad about setting unrealistic goals. If you shoot for the moon, you’ll land amongst the stars, right? Keep your aims high, look towards them, but keep working towards them step by step. Overcome the smaller obstacles first and then gradually move toward the big ones. Crabs would be there every step of the way, but it’s your job not to get trapped by them and continue the hustle.
Crabs are all around us. Only altering your environment will help you get past other people’s crab mentality. Since you can’t control what other people believe, you must move on and surround yourself with like-minded individuals if you want these negative beliefs to have no impact on you. You cannot allow others to derail you or let their resentment drag you down. So surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you and try out one or two of the tactics we just covered.